If you’re searching for children of divorce statistics, you might be tempted to show your leaving spouse the devastating effects of divorce on children in an effort to convince them to stay.
Unfortunately, when a spouse has already filed for divorce or emotionally checked out, this isn’t going to work.
Over years of working with couples, I’ve found that women (and men) who are emotionally dead to their spouse, will also disconnect their children’s future from the pending divorce.
That means that a man or woman determined to seek his or her own relief, can no longer feel a sense of their children’s emotional condition in the years to come.
WHY?
Because this leaving spouse is DESPERATE, they only live for today.
This is especially true for women.
Very often a man can’t understand a wife’s desperation because he is so content with the way things are.
He wants to maintain the way things are and has no intention of understanding what put his wife in this painful condition.
It’s during the time when the wife is trying to get away, that her husband introduces things like children of divorce statistics and proof in an effort to convince her that the children will suffer in the future as a result of the divorce.
But a fleeing woman has NO ability to read these reports and facts. It does not matter which book or report her husband gives her.
She cannot hear it or see it.
If the statistic was that children of divorced homes divorce at a rate 40% higher than people who come from parents who stayed together, she will ignore it saying that no one should be this unhappy in a marriage.
All she wants now is for her husband to leave her alone because he has de-moralized her so badly, that he now has become just a bad memory.
This happens when men refuse to recognize a woman’s warning signs that she is dying emotionally inside.
It takes years, but he never intended that anything would change because he was happy with the way things were.
Her discontentment was just her problem.
If possible, recognize the warning signs before she travels down the steps to divorce.
The following free marriage resources can help you further identify the warning signs and learn how to avoid common mistakes.