Samantha’s question for Larry:
“My husband is going through a midlife crisis. He has filed for divorce.
Help me understand why would anyone stay with someone that has these mental issues midlife crisis when all they do is opposite of what a marriage should be about. Especially considering the fact that not everyone can go through midlife crisis, therefore wouldn’t it be better to leave the person that hates and allow the mental ill person continue with their choice of divorce and free the spouse they are hurting?
I think it would be unfair to live with these people and not be loved in return. Especially if there are no duration of this crisis they are going through. I tried to help my husband and he still filed for divorce.
Just curious as why would anyone stay with someone that doesn’t love them. Midlife crisis people hate their spouse.”
Larry’s answer for Samantha:
This is a good question. Why should a sane and civil wife stay around trying to save a husband who has given himself to the dark side?
I have found that there are some wives who no longer see the man they married.
He is not the man who was at the wedding. He is more like his troubled childhood parents who you never would’ve married.
Like father, like son
The man you did marry, did fall in love with, was nothing like his father at the time. But the longer you stayed married to him, the more he became like his original programmer. If your own parents divorced, and you were not troubled by it, then in your brain, divorce is a good solution. To you, it solves the problem just like it did for your own mother or father.
The women I work through my Environment Changer course still see the man they married underneath all the darkness – and they are determined to save that person.
It is possible, but it takes a special type of woman with the strength, enough pain and determination to remain loyal and committed to getting her family back, despite the hurtful treatment by her husband.
So the question is, are you that woman or is the pain simply too much?